Freedom to Choose Our Medical Treatment

Freedom to Choose Our Medical Treatment should be a basic human right.

Part of being a parent is choosing the best food, education, and heaven forbid, the best medical treatment.

Medical freedom of choice

For most of us, we sacrifice so much so that our children can have the very best and upgrade from where we leave off in life. It’s some kind of written Parent coding from within us. But lately, I see more and more families facing what we went through. A lack of Freedom exists and it is becoming increasingly difficult to make the best choice due to over-extending arms within many hospitals.

The difficulty lies in our case with the 500,000 children who belong to the state but who have loving parents that seek to adopt if needed and live with the consequences every day.

This is personal and I have a lot of questions. It’s natural to ask.

Well, I want to change a perception. After the loss of a little 4 year old boy to cancer, I have some insights and want to point out a huge oversight currently creeping into our world.

Is it OK to die in the hospital? There seems to be an allowance. I hear, “Well, the doctors did all they could”. Why is it considered negligent if you die using a natural treatment at home?

How can a doctor have jurisdiction over the choices you make and have authority to call the Department of Children and Families if you do not prescribe to their treatment? Granted, doctors are skilled in their area of study, but it is a partnership and if the parent is in disagreement, why does the doctor have authority on you or your child’s life? Where is the balance of parent choice and medical intervention?

Whose right is it choose the best medical care to treat my child? Shouldn’t that rest ultimately with the parent?

Our case is unique, got it! But there needs to be a real shift in thinking and we need to get active. The system is broken and it is encroaching on personal freedom.

As a perpetual learner, this one is a doozy! Share your thoughts, I’d love to hear them. We educate each other, which is such a fun part of life. It is important to note that my tone is passionate but not angry. The tone is more of disappointment that the U.S. has lost control of more natural viable options to treat disease. Please read in this tone.

Our son gets to die in the hospital. Did I mention he is our Foster son, so we didn’t have the freedom to choose his treatments? Even though it was stated a less than 5% chance of survival. Truly strange, in our opinion.

Granted, we are a lot more educated in this conventional treatment than before. And we live a lot more healthy than before. Now, I’m asking for the right to have choices in treatment without judgement if it goes wrong.  And I want these options for foster and orphaned children too!

It’s not desirable to die in the hospital; not even the hospital organization wants you to die! So why do we force a parent to use a certain method of treatment that has a “less than 5% chance of success (in our case)?”

Can we at least let people choose how to fight cancer or any disease? Let us choose: Choose how and what to eat, Choose grocery store milk or milk direct from a farmer, Choose how to educate. Parenting is full of choices. You choose your style and I’ll choose mine. And above all! NO JUDGEMENT!  Just appreciate the differences and be respectful.  And give the people- Freedom to choose the medical treatment they want.

Indulge me in the simplified scenario below and consider how this has become an unfortunate truth:

NOTE: In the best case scenario, the situation is not as relevant. So for demonstration, I will show the worst case scenario.

Scenario 1

Child has cancer. Parents choose to follow the “widely accepted treatment in the USA” which is chemotherapy. Child dies within 1-2 years.

Scenario 2

Child has cancer.  Parents do NOT choose to follow the “widely accepted treatment of chemotherapy”. They do not choose to inject the child with toxins, but, in my humble opinion, a more humane treatment is chosen. Child dies within 1-2 years.

I wish so hard that we could be allowed to see the results by experiencing both choices. The best we have is to see the people who have chosen both ways.

Scenario 1,  Everyone cries, the medical staff is hugely disappointed, and the family goes home without a member.

Scenario 2,  Everyone cries and goes home or is home. Then, the family gets investigated and/or sued by someone or some entity for neglect.


Die in the hospital

Am I missing something?!

Did you even know there are viable options to treat cancer?  And from where I sit, these odds seem better. Here are some Cancer options that everyone should know:

As a parent, we make the best decisions we can every day. Choose to eat healthy whatever method you choose to treat an illness. It matters! And if you CHOOSE the chemotherapy approach and you die in the hospital, at least you had the CHOICE and made the best decision with what information you have.

Whether we choose natural methods or unnatural methods, the risks and consequences exists.

So I propose to change the system. With passion (and a genuine smile) I submit, whether you die in the hospital or at home, let’s make it respectful to CHOOSE. Ultimately, I do believe that each person is smart and especially parents seeking the best for their child.

Sign me up for Freedom to choose the medical treatment albeit conventional, traditional, or natural!


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Mandy is the force behind the advocacy portal Real Food Recovery. Since losing a 4 yr old to cancer while fostering to adopt, Mandy founded a nonprofit organization recovering children at-risk using fun and real food. As a Mom to birth, foster, and adopted children, author, Nutritional Therapist, & NRT, Mandy shares simple, affordable ways to recover health and to have fun, while supporting your doctor... Connect with Mandy through Twitter and Facebook.
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  1. […] had the unimaginable loss of a child.  We had to fight cancer traditionally and he died after 2 years.  Sometimes it amazes me that I can get up in the morning and keep […]

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