Why Should I Foster and Adopt?
Foster families are amazing! Fostering provides a wonderful family and home for a child who needs both! The strange thing is that there are so many families who want to adopt for various reasons. The reasons are numerous; some are compelled by passion (like our family), some are not able to have children and some have older children but have more love to give.
All these reasons and more are GREAT reasons to foster and adopt. My hope is to help educate you on ways you can affect change to the entire world, one child at a time. Every child should have an opportunity to be great. And when bad things happen and life gives you lemons, you make lemonade. From a child’s perspective, the biological parent(s) could have a bad situation and therefore they are in need of a temporary or permanent home. Any way you look, fostering and potential adoption are terrific ways to help a child, help a parent, and help a community!
Here are some compelling reasons to consider foster and adopt:
1. There are around 460,000 children in the USA who are in foster care and/or orphanage homes, over 13 Million orphans in the world (losing both parents).
We have become so politically correct that we call these group homes, children’s homes which has a nice sound, but I fear that the general public is completely unaware of this problem.
2. The problem is that not enough good people are looking to foster-and-adopt our children.
Rather than shooting for a straight adoption, waiting for years…why not help out the community and yourself. Practice makes perfect…and in this case provides love and a home for a child. Basically we could change this world if just a few more families would foster and possibly adopt 1 child!
The possibility gives me chill bumps.
So many childless families are waiting for years to adopt and they could be loving a child while they wait and as a bonus get some practice in with a child who deserves love in a family. Therefore, optimally, it would be beneficial for both the child and the parents to engage to foster and adopt.
3. You can help out a child or children in your local area. Many are adopting internationally, which is great, but we also need to consider adopting our own children.
And today the average age for adoption through the fostering system is about 8 years old. So younger children and older children need adopting, but this important age of 8 has the greatest need. Many times, these children come into the foster system at very young ages. They go back to a biological parent and it doesn’t work, so they come back into foster care. After several years these children are available to be adopted as the parent is unable. If a child does not get adopted they “age-out”.
Statistics on Foster Care- YOU could change!
Unfortunately, from 1998 – 2005 an increase of 41% more of these children in Foster Care or Orphanage Homes “aged out”. Once I was meeting a Case manager and the office was having a party with an 18 year old. I asked the occasion for celebrating. The response was, “Oh, he has graduated and aged-out of the system”. So I respond like anyone and ask, what is “aging out”?. Well, it means that you have never been adopted into a family but you are not going to be fostered anymore; a more independent status. I wanted to cry! But instead I ask why they were celebrating something that seems so sad. A very wise Case Manager tells me that you take what you get and make the best of it; so the State tries to make a celebration to mask a sad disposition.
Then I come home and look up the information through my sources. Here are the statistics on these 18 year old boys and girls:
- One in four will be incarcerated within two years of leaving foster care,
- 1 in 5 will become homeless,
- Only half will graduate from high school, and
- Less than 3 percent receive college degrees. Source
4. Helping out these children will build a BETTER COMMUNITY for you!
There are some bad stigmas out there for fostering, which we discover as we began our process. Let me assure you they are myths for the most part and I will dispell these later. But for now, I would rather help you get involved in the process because it is the most incredibly rewarding experience. Each one of us has the power to change the world in which we live. These children grow up and live in your communities. The decisions you make are powerful. Where you spend your money, for example, builds a local farmer or grows a grocery store chain. So why not get involved in some way to help these children in need of a family? Read Families Change
5. You get to experience the child in your family.
This is really a nice convenience. For both the child and the family, you get to know and grow with each other. Everyday people are traveling overseas, spending $20,ooo or more and unfortunately 20-30% of adopted children are returned. (These numbers are not tracked consistently and vary between 10- 50%. However, according to one source: The Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption, it is estimated that more than 20 percent of the nearly 6,300 foster children in Ohio came from a failed overseas adoption.)
6. If a child comes up for adoption, it is an easy transition because the child is already in your home.
Currently, the statistics show that the highest percentage of children needing to be adopted are the age 5-9 group at 30%. When you foster, many times you have this child from age 2 – 4 and they are up for adoption. So it is as if you have had the child for 2 years already. It’s easier to transition because the child is already a part of your family. Source Read this The Star: A Story to Help Young Children
Truly we could change this world if just a few more families would foster and possibly adopt 1 child! The possibility is incredible. So many childless families are waiting to adopt and they could be loving a child while they wait and as a bonus get some practice in with a child who deserves love in a family. Therefore, optimally, it would be beneficial for both the child and the parents to engage in foster care and eventual adoption when available.
Look at these great sites to learn more about the children USA [Here] England [Here] and read more on How to Foster and Adopt. Look it up for your state, province, and country and see how you can get involved.