How Compromised Children Make Us Better People
There are some positive outcomes to having a compromised child and for some families, compromised children.
Certainly, there are some really unfortunate outcomes to having a compromised child. Whether you have a child with Down’s Syndrome, Mitochondrial Disorder, Autism, ADD/ADHD, cancer and more, we parents understand how it radically changes a family’s life. It changes perspective, friends (if any remain), activities, beliefs, and diet.
Although important for others to understand, this is not the discussion for today. Today is the day to recognize the silver lining. After dealing with children at-risk, it is important to find the good in everything. And today we want to recognize that compromised children make better people and can help others understand what is truly important in life.
Finding the Positive With Compromised Children
While a perfect life is blissful, many times it is shallow. When a compromised children arrive into a family, life seems to take on more depth. The family develops an appreciation for a responsive smile, a caring heart, and a simple act of kindness; this broadens and deepens the heart of a parent, a brother, and a sister. The simple actions of a compromised child are not taken for granted.
You know all those events and parties that you feel like you need to go to for friendships, political maneuvering, and family traditions? Having a compromised child becomes a real life-balancer. These “obligations” do not seem so important in comparison to the comfort and protection of your child. Plus, everyone understands your excuses and appreciates you more when you can attend. Your compromised child puts things into perspective.
The “traumatic” times of seeing a spider are days of old! Surgeries, herculean embarrassments, near death, and death experiences are all fair game and somehow we become stronger and more vulnerable and more real as we survive and improve the lives of those around us!
Education and Critical Thinking
Many times a medical professional only sees what he/she is trained to see. Therefore disorders labeled as incurable are written-off. A good friend who is an MD said to me, “I’m so sorry this is happening to you. It’s just the new normal.” This registered in my mind as a challenge that somehow I could change the outcome and mitigate damage in my child. Self-reflection occurs because we had done something that caused this to happen in our child. And what goes up must come down — this translates as what can happen can unhappen! It’s positively human nature to survive. A consequential appreciation for the parents discovering Lorenzo’s Oil certainly occurs, and research allows some if not full recovery of the child you love. Any improvement to a child’s existence and understanding requires education, good partners, prayer, magic, and serious perseverance.
Food is Important
No matter what anyone tells you, the connection to food and healing becomes vividly clear. How food is: grown, fertilized, harvested, prepared, and cooked are of paramount importance. These factors determine if you have food to nourish, or if you are serving a chemical concoction that may harm your child.
A wonderful part of human nature occurs as well. There is always a silver lining or life would be out of balance. As a child discovers who they are, a whole new perspective occurs. Compromised children look at life differently. Some see in a way that allows loved ones to also see the world in a positive new light. Temple Grandin is a perfect example. We now understand animals better because her mom listened and pushed others to listen.
Finding the positives is beneficial for our health. So keep this list in mind for the days you feel you can’t go on. We are a large number of parents and we can turn this around! Maybe not in a day, or in one magical potion, but collectively and day by day, we can and we will help our children.